OBITUARY WRITING GUIDE

Writing An Obituary

What goes into writing a thoughtful obituary? It’s a common question when preparing one for a spouse, family member, or close friend. What details should be included, and how do you strike the right tone between straightforward facts and personal reflection? This guide offers helpful insight to support you through the process.

Including the Essentials

While a death notice typically lists only the basic facts, an obituary offers a more complete picture of a loved one’s life. Still, both should include some key information.

Start with the full name of the person, including any widely recognized nicknames. For married women, it’s helpful to include a maiden name as well.

Other important details to include are:

  • Date of birth and date of death
  • Age at the time of passing
  • Place of birth
  • Where they lived
  • Where they passed away (city and state)
  • Names of surviving family members
  • Funeral service details (date, time, and location)



These basics provide the foundation for a meaningful tribute.

Writing a Meaningful Obituary

Creating an obituary is more than listing facts—it’s a chance to honor a life in a way that serves your family, your community, and future generations. In many ways, it becomes a personal piece of history.

There’s no one right way to write an obituary, but beyond the basic details, you might consider including:

  • Parents' names
  • Information about a spouse, children, and other close family
  • Religious or church involvement
  • Career highlights or work history
  • Notable achievements
  • Hobbies, interests, and personality traits
  • Contributions to their community



Take time to reflect on special memories that showcase your loved one’s character. When possible, include specific examples that help paint a vivid picture of how they lived and what mattered most to them. The more heartfelt and detailed, the more lasting the tribute.